Category: Book Talk

  • Starbucked

    I am not sure what led me to pick up Starbucked, but I am glad that I did. I’ve certainly had my fair share of frappuccinos over the years, but I am hardly a Starbucks loyalist. As far as coffee chains go, I actually really prefer Caribou Coffee, which, thanks to this book, I now know is owned by an Islamic group that requires them to follow portions of Shari’ah Law. I had no idea…

    But, back to Starbucks:

    Clark starts out by discussing the draw of Starbucks. I hadn’t considered it before, but this section spurred a lot of thought in my mind and amongst me and my friends. Starbucks is marketed as a way to indulge yourself and it is an inexpensive way to have something that seems luxurious. For only a few dollars, you can feel like you are pampering yourself. The marketing is brilliant, and the demand for their product is seemingly endless.

    Clark also discusses the placement of Starbucks stores. Years ago, Starbucks executives realized that they could put in a store directly across the street from another store, and it would draw an almost completely different crowd. The Starbucks real estate team is top-notch, and they evaluate not just neighborhood education levels, number of children, and where traffic flows, but also the number of times a person visits a shopping center (dry cleaners and video stores are great neighbors for Starbucks, because you have to go back a second time to drop off or pick up items) or even the number of oil stains in a parking lot. Starbucks is perfectly happy to offer large sums of money to landlords in order to oust competitive coffee stores. They will even leave a retail space empty, just to keep it from being occupied by a competitor.

    On the other hand, Starbucks has created an industry where one didn’t exist before, and this has greatly benefited local coffee shops. Even though Caribou, the next biggest competitor to Starbucks, has only about 1/4 the number of stores, smaller coffee shops have a very good success rate. The success is far better than that of independently owned restaurants. Also, independent shops tend to do very well when they are located near a Starbucks. It seems that people get hooked on Starbucks drinks (which are mostly milk — they contain just a few cents worth of coffee) and then they venture out and try local places.

    This book is filled with these kind of dichotomies. Clark discusses the start of Starbucks (did you know that one of the founders of Starbucks bought Peet’s coffee, which was their initial inspiration, and sold Starbucks?), the coffee bean industry, the fair-trade debate, the way that Starbucks treats its employees, the way that Starbucks kills culture when it invades a new country, the fact that Starbucks basically sells milk, the fact that the espresso at Starbucks is no longer made by the baristas, but by machines, and so much more. It all goes back to what I said above… Starbucks is a big corporate monster, and yet Starbucks has helped a lot of people too. It isn’t black-and-white, and that is precisely why I liked this book. It would’ve been easy to take one side or the other (read Pour Your Heart Into It, the book written by the long-time CEO of Starbucks if you’re looking for a one-sided view.)

    I don’t plan on frequenting Starbucks. I will continue to support the local coffee shops and the smaller chains, but I can appreciate the way that Starbucks has changed our world, both for good and for bad. This book was a fairly entertaining read, and I will never look at the coffee industry in the same way!

  • 52 books… Want to join me?

    This year I’m trying to read 52 books. I’m currently right on track, woohoo! My handy Kindle has been a great help, because I can read behind my nursling’s head without distracting her. Turning pages on a real book inevitably makes her reach and grab. Hooray for e-ink!

    So, here are my first three books of the year:

    #1 – Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte
    Jane Eyre

    I really have no idea how I made it this far in my life without reading Jane Eyre. It was such a great book. I have every intention of re-reading it, because I loved it so much. I was excited to find out that a new movie version is going to be released soon. I definitely want to see it!

    #2 – Listening to Your Hormones by Gillian Ford
    This really wasn’t a bad book, but it wasn’t my absolute favorite. She has a lot of great information about hormones and the female reproductive system, but I didn’t like how much she focused on taking hormones as a remedy. I think her approach is valuable for women with serious problems, but that most women could benefit from more natural remedies.

    #3 – Lives in the Balance: Nurses’ Stories from the ICU
    Lives in the Balance

    Admittedly, I decided to read this book when I saw that it was offered for free on the Kindle. I was nursing a sleepy baby and wanted something new to read while she dozed off…

    Although this book was clearly not penned by professional authors, it is still quite good. I enjoyed it, and I appreciated the glimpse into the lives of nurses in the ICU. It was far less gory than I expected, and instead focused almost exclusively on the emotional and relational aspects of the job. I’m really glad that I gave it a try.

    ….And, I have one more book that I want to mention, even though I technically read it last year (I finished on December 28th.)


    Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption
    Unbroken

    I am a make-love-not-war kind of girl, so I wasn’t sure how interested I’d be in a story that revolves around war and the cruelties that take place therein. I am SO glad that I decided to read it. The story is very well-told, and it was difficult to put down even during the parts of the book that dealt with sensitive subject matters. You really couldn’t ask for a better message, and I found this story to be really inspiring.

    In reading Unbroken, I was reminded of how lacking my modern history exposure was in high school. Inevitably, we’d run out of time before the end of the year, so we’d learn something like “…then there was the great depression, two world wars, Kennedy, Vietnam, Reagan, and then today!” We never went into any detail. Reading more details about the second World War was fascinating. I can imagine reading portions of this book with my children when they’re older (maybe the whole thing… when they’re MUCH older), because she does such a great job of making the topic engaging. It is truly a Living Book, as Charlotte Mason would say.

    Well, I’m off to read some more. I hope everyone is having a great new year!

  • Time Spent Together

    The National Family Institute reported that the average American child spends 12.5 minutes each day communicating with her parents. Of that time, 8.5 minutes are spent on corrections, criticisms, or arguments. A University of Iowa study revealed that on average, a child hears 432 negative comments daily, compared to 32 positive ones (Hochschild, 1997.)

    Isn’t that a scary number?

    Here’s another one:

    If you concentrate on playing with young children for at least five minutes a day, you may reduce power struggles by as much as fifty percent.

    Amen! I completely agree!

    I’ve been reading Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey for the past few weeks, and it has been wonderful. It has really been the perfect timing for me. As with almost all parenting books we read, Joe and I have been using the techniques primarily on ourselves, lol. It is humbling to see all of the ways that we can improve. What I really love about this book is the focus on your own thought patterns and how they impact your relationships with others.

    I hope to come back and discuss it more… Hopefully in the next week! I am insanely busy between the kids, midwifery school, finishing my doula certification, working on my herbalism class, and taking a few web design jobs. Hopefully it’ll slow down soon… I have a big assignment to turn in for my midwifery school and I expect to have a little more blogging time once it is submitted. 🙂 (Well, except then it’ll be time to work on the next big assignment, LOL!)

  • Nonviolent Communication

    Oh man!

    I have recently learned that I am apparently a very violent communicator.  My husband seems to be taking great joy in pointing this out, LOL. Luckily for me, he’s just as violent as I am, HA! (Wait, is that violent to say?!)  I guess I should write a couple of posts on this, but it basically comes down to the fact that I speak judgments.  I am a quick judge, and I tend to speak my judgments as fact.  I know its hard to believe, but speaking that way can put other people on the defensive.  (NO WAY?!)  So why do I do it?

    Long before I reached adulthood, I learned to communicate in an impersonal way which did not require me to reveal what was going on inside myself.  When I encountered people or behaviors that I either didn’t like or didn’t understand, I would react in terms of their wrongness.  If my teachers assigned a task I didn’t want to do, they were “mean” or “unreasonable.”  If someone pulled out in front of me in traffic, my reaction would be, “You idiot!”  When we speak this language, we think and communicate in terms of what is wrong with others for behaving in a certain ways….

    Ahh, yes.  That’s what I do.  I am afraid that I am the first one to judge others actions and think in terms of what others have done wrong.

    Our attention is focused on classifying, analyzing, and determining factors of wrongness rather than on what we and others need and are not getting.  Thus, if my partner wants more affection than I’m giving her, she is “needy and dependent.”  But if I want more affection than she is giving me, then she is “aloof and insensitive.”  If my colleague is more concerned about details than I am, he is “picky and compulsive.”  On the other hand, if I am more concerned about details than he is, he is “sloppy and disorganized.”

    Ohhh, sucky.  I do that too.  I speak like that often.

    It is my belief that all such analyses of other human beings are tragic expressions of our own values and needs.  They are tragic because when we express our values and needs in this form, we increase defensiveness and resistance among the very people whose behaviors are of concern to us.  Or, if people do agree to act in harmony with our values, they will likely do so out of fear, guilt, or shame, because they concur with our analysis of their wrongness.

    Crap, crap crap.  I don’t want people acting in harmony with me only because I’ve guilted or shamed them into it.  I really do want to build everyone up and live in peace.  It looks like I have a new project…

    Seriously, this book is really awesome.  I’m afraid that I have yet to master communicating nonviolently, so you’ll have to wait for the solution in a future post.  For now, I can say that I realize that I communicate like scum, and I am trying to speak my feelings rather than judgments.  The hilarious thing is that I tell my kids to speak their feelings and needs all the time, and I somehow decided it doesn’t apply for grown ups.  Fantastic.

    At least I can learn about my hypocrisy now, while they’re still young. 😛

  • Recently finished books

    I’ve been reading so much, but I haven’t had a chance to talk about all of them. Here’s a quick recap though of what I covered in the past month or so…

    This is such a nice little book. Joe and I each read it in a matter of hours. It covers some really interesting historical facts about Christmas, and then focuses on ways to bring joy to the holiday without making it all commercial. He explains that “hundred dollar” part of the title was really just because it sounded good with the word “holiday”, and you can use any amount that you pick. I really enjoyed his suggestions and ideas for different ways to celebrate Christmas.

    This was another fast read. I really enjoyed it, though. Peggy Vincent and I clearly have a few philosophical differences when it comes to midwifery, but I found her story to be very relatable and encouraging. As I continue to consider a path to midwifery, this book gave me pause and helped me to really contemplate what kind of midwife I’d like to be. Good stuff.

    I was really enthralled by Heart & Hands. I couldn’t put it down. The funniest part was that I was taking it EVERYWHERE with me, and I was getting the strangest glances, LOL. I was at a birthday party with my daughter and reading about suturing techniques if a woman tears during childbirth. The other moms around me kept scooting in closer and closer to read over my shoulder. They couldn’t figure out what it was. Finally, one of them asked, so I explained what kind of book I was reading, and then I got a good hour of hearing about other women’s birth stories. It made me laugh, because I remember a quote in _Pushed_ that talked about how a midwife’s life is pretty much the same whether they are in or out of jail: they just hear other women’s birth stories. I have found it so intriguing that everyone wants to share their birth story as soon as I mention anything about birth work. Funny.

    I’m not quite done with this book yet, but I’m really enjoying reading about all of the different philosophies and paths that bring women to midwifery. It is really helping me to figure out where my passion lies.

    OK, I’m going to have to do a few entries on The Ministry of Motherhood, because it really made me think. I love Sally Clarkson’s writings, and I could read her books all day. Joe and I were talking over the weekend about how there are times when you feel convicted to do something, but then your resolve starts to waiver… until you pick up a book that gives you a swift kick in the butt and reminds you of why you wanted to change in the first place. That’s exactly what her books do for me. I start to slack, and then she reminds me to keep running the race!

    I just finished my first, official, group Beth Moore study. I bought Breaking Free years ago, and really liked it, but I had never done a group study with the videos and all that jazz. It was a great experience. I loved the daily workbook stuff, and her teachings really coincided with stuff that God has been teaching me elsewhere.

    Sadly, this isn’t even all of the books that I’ve read, but lunch is ready, so I have to run! If you’ve been reading anything interesting recently, please comment and let me know! I’m always on the hunt for good books!

  • Cookie love


    Oh man, I am in love! I am a cookie freak, and I am always looking for great cookie recipes. I found the most amazing vegan oatmeal raisin (and chocolate chip) cookies in Veganomicon. They are perfectly chewy and moist and just fantastic.

    And, of course, the best part about making vegan cookies is that you get to eat the dough without any guilt ;)  No salmonella worries here!

    I wasn’t sure if I wanted to buy Veganomicon right away since it is only in hard cover, but it is worth every penny.  This is definitely the kind of cookbook that you want to be able to reach for anytime you want it.

    Tomorrow night I’m trying the Pineapple Cashew Quinoa Stir-Fry from Veganomicon, so I’ll let you know how it goes  🙂

  • Homemade Baked Beans

    Mmmm! I love slow cooked meals! I finally gave in and bought Fresh From the Vegetarian Slow Cooker, after years of constantly checking it out from the library. It is one of my all-time favorite cookbooks, because it is so easy and kid-friendly.

    Today I decided to try the Maple Baked Beans. They are killer! I realize that beans may not exactly be the sexiest looking food, but you’ll just have to take my word on it, lol.  They were perfectly maple-y without it being overpowering.  Very yummy!

  • Really good in the end…

    My rating:

    I must admit that I was initially very skeptical of this book. I thought it might be punitive, guilt-based parenting in disguise, and I wrote about that in the past. The fact that the authors appeared on Family Life Today made me even more skeptical, haha. Mr. Turansky graciously responded to my criticisms, and I must humbly admit that I was wrong. I think I misjudged some of his words. I think that I can accept the things that I disagreed with once I look at them in the context of the entire book.

    I would absolutely recommend this book to parents on either side of the parenting spectrum. I sincerely believe that my friends who are into punitive parenting would enjoy and learn from this book without being immediately turned off, and I think that my AP/GBD friends would love it just as much. I think it is fully in line with AP philosophy. I especially appreciated the final chapter. It focuses on how our children are not just our children, but also our brothers and sisters in Christ. I wish that more parents thought about this fact. I know that I am guilty of forgetting it very often. I was so impressed to see a mainstream Christian book that tackled this subject.

    Overall, I would happily recommend this book to any parent. I even listed (and immediately sent out) my copy on paperbackswap, so that another parent could have access to this excellent resource. I am very strict about what I paperbackswap, because I would never want to send something on that I felt was not encouraging or uplifting for the family who will receive it. That is why I have a horrific copy of “Withhold Not Correction” sitting on my shelf that my mother-in-law gave me years ago. I do NOT want any other family to see someone suggest that you switch your children with a tree branch from your own yard!

    Back on topic though… You can read my previous entries about Say Goodbye… on this page. If you end up reading the book, please post and let me know what you thought! I’d love to discuss it 🙂

    Oh, and Merry Christmas!!!

  • Tolerance levels

    I’m in a mad whirlwind while trying to finish up the 50 or so books that I have started but not finished in the past few years, so my posts will probably be quite a hodge-podge.  I am working on a big, long entry about Church History in Plain Language, but I shall save that for another night because I am nursing at the keyboard right now  😛

    Tonight’s lesson for myself is on tolerance and comes from Turansky and Miller’s Say Goodbye…

    People have an alarm in their heads that is set to a specific tolerance level.  When they’re irritated or annoyed, the alarm goes off.  Each person’s alarm is set differently…  The good news is that tolerance levels aren’t permanently set.

    Recently I’ve been more tired (go figure… with a baby and all…) and I’ve noticed that my tolerance levels have gone down considerably.  At the same time I’ve noticed that my children’s tolerance levels with each other have gone down.  This is most certainly related.  I needed this little reminder tonight to let me know that I need to work on reseting my tolerance levels and not being so testy.  😛

    This passage also prompted me to think about how each of my children respond to different circumstances.  For example, my son is incredibly tolerant when it comes to waiting for his turn, but he is not so tolerant when it comes to his personal space. My daughter, on the other hand, is comfortable with people being quite close to her, but she has a tough time waiting for her turn.  My children can learn a lot from each other, and I can learn from each of them.  It is easy to forget that what may not bother you may be very annoying to someone else.

  • My review of Birth: The Surprising History of How We Are Born (rated 3 stars)

    Birth: The Surprising History of How We Are Born

    by Tina Cassidy


    I just finished this book, and I was disappointed to recognize many sections of it from another book that I am currently reading, Milk, Money, and Madness. I don’t think the author exactly plagiarized, but its pretty close. For example, Cassidy says in Birth

    At Dublin Foundling Hospital, of ten thousand hand-fed infants between 1775 and 1796, only forty-five survived infancy, an astounding mortality rate of 99.6 percent.

    In Milk, Money, and Madness, it reads

    At the Dublin Foundling Asylum during 1775-96, where dry nursing was in vogue, only 45 children survived out of 10,272-a horrendous 99.6% mortality rate.

    Just a few paragraphs later Cassidy says

    The ignorance and confusion surrounding bottle preparation spurred Nathan Straus, owner of Macy’s department store in New York, to give away pasteurized milk to poor children at philanthropic “stations,” a concept that had also taken hold in Europe…

    Milk, Money, and Madness says

    Milk stations were soon all the fashion. At the turn of the century, “milk depots” were established in France, Britain, and the United States… In New York, Nathan Strauss of Macy’s, working through health department clinics, organized milk stations where pasteurized, bottled milk was provided free for the needy and at low cost to others.

    You get my point. I saw dozens of these kinds of passages, which was a real turn-off. Milk, Money, and Madness came out 11 years earlier, and apparently used fantastic sources since Cassidy lifted passages like the ones above.

    My other complaint is that Cassidy swings back and forth throughout the text. First she talks about how its a miracle that any of us can survive childbirth and that we’ll soon all need C-sections because our kids keep getting bigger and bigger. Then she talks about how doctors are killing us all and homebirths with midwives are safer. Then she says she’d never homebirth.

    I’m very glad that I read this after my latest pregnancy. Cassidy admits that she doesn’t trust her body, and it is evident in the text. I wouldn’t recommend this book to a pregnant woman.

    Cassidy has some really cool pictures in here though. The chapter on C-sections was horrifying, but really interesting at the same time. I feel so many mixed emotions about this book. I’m glad that I read it, but I wonder if the sections that I liked could’ve been found in other books.

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