{"id":94,"date":"2006-04-06T22:45:20","date_gmt":"2006-04-07T02:45:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.hippiemommy.com\/?p=94"},"modified":"2006-04-06T22:45:20","modified_gmt":"2006-04-07T02:45:20","slug":"queen-bees-and-wannabes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hippiemommy.com\/?p=94","title":{"rendered":"Queen Bees and Wannabes&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe style=\"width: 120px; height: 240px;\" src=\"\/\/ws-na.amazon-adsystem.com\/widgets\/q?ServiceVersion=20070822&amp;OneJS=1&amp;Operation=GetAdHtml&amp;MarketPlace=US&amp;source=ac&amp;ref=qf_sp_asin_til&amp;ad_type=product_link&amp;tracking_id=hippiemommy0e-20&amp;marketplace=amazon&amp;region=US&amp;placement=1101903058&amp;asins=1101903058&amp;linkId=76d0ab7e92da684ceaedcd36ba98b746&amp;show_border=false&amp;link_opens_in_new_window=false&amp;price_color=333333&amp;title_color=0066c0&amp;bg_color=ffffff\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\">&lt;br \/&gt;<br \/>\n    <\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>I came to a disturbing revelation today.<\/p>\n<p>I was a queen bee.<\/p>\n<p>As I was browsing through the library, I saw a copy of Rosalind Wiseman&#8217;s <em>Queen Bees and Wannabes<\/em>, which made me very excited, because I&#8217;ve been wanting to read it for years. I remember when <a href=\"http:\/\/www.oprah.com\/tows\/pastshows\/200305\/tows_past_20030527.jhtml\">she was first on the Oprah show<\/a>, and I was completely fascinated. I couldn&#8217;t wait to read the book and hate all of the Queen Bees.<\/p>\n<p>Then once I started reading, I realized that my school life was split right down the middle. From 3rd until 7th grade, I attended a small private school. We moved in 8th grade, and I went to public school from then until I was done with high school.<\/p>\n<p>In high school I was definitely not a Queen Bee. Our school was far too big to contain just one Queen Bee anyways. After reading all of Ms. Wiseman&#8217;s classifications, I think I was a &#8220;Floater&#8221; in high school. I had a lot of friends, including popular friends, but I was neither here nor there. I think I fit her description of<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>You can usually spot this girl because she doesn&#8217;t associate with only one clique. She has friends in different groups and can move freely among them.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>She goes on to describe the floater as being nothing extraordinary&#8230; not the prettiest, but pretty; not the smartest, but smart&#8230; I definitely wasn&#8217;t a &#8220;target&#8221;, wasn&#8217;t under a Queen Bee, and wasn&#8217;t a &#8220;wannabe&#8221; (since I can&#8217;t even figure out who the Queen Bee was in our school), so &#8220;Floater&#8221; makes the most sense.<\/p>\n<p>So then the disturbing part came for me. I was still trying to figure out where I fit in middle school. I was reading the Queen Bee description, and thinking how she sounded like a royal *****. Then I realized how much of it was me.<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<ul>\n<li>Her friends do what she wants to do<\/li>\n<li>She isn&#8217;t intimidated by any other girl in her class<\/li>\n<li>You have to convince her to invite everyone to her birthday party<\/li>\n<li>She can argue anyone down, including friends, peers, teachers, and parents<\/li>\n<li>She can make another girl feel &#8220;anointed&#8221; by declaring her a special friend<\/li>\n<li>She won&#8217;t (or is very reluctant to) take responsibility when she hurts someone&#8217;s feelings<\/li>\n<li>If she thinks she&#8217;s been wronged, she feels she has the right to seek revenge<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p>I feel like such an ass. How did I not realize this? As soon as I thought about it, a million things flooded back that proved this &#8211; things that I&#8217;d be embarassed to share. I am certainly not this way anymore, but this is a short list of things that I have had to work on in my life. These were the main issues that even plagued my relationships with men when I was younger &#8211; especially the part about not wanting to take responsibility when hurting someone.<\/p>\n<p>Then I flipped back to where Ms. Wiseman says when speaking of the Queen Bee claiming that she is in a clique, but it is not mean<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8230;she honestly believes what she&#8217;s saying&#8230;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>So I did the only logical thing: I called people who knew me back then. Guess what they said when I asked them what I was&#8230; Yep, a Queen Bee.<\/p>\n<p>I guess I can be thankful that I was knocked off of that rank when I was young. At least I wasn&#8217;t that way all the way through. Queen Bees can change, right?<\/p>\n<p>So have any of you read the book? If so, what role did you fall into? Was it the same all the way through?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&lt;br \/&gt; I came to a disturbing revelation today. I was a queen bee. 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