Category: Attachment Parenting

  • Hey mamas…. what are you putting in your breastmilk?

    I love this book.  I have the older edition, so I’ll update the quotes if I find that anything has changed in the newer one.

    In the second part of the book, John Robbins talks about the different chemicals and pesticides that are used on and fed to the livestock in our country.  These pesticides can kill and injure when ingested with the lowest measurable doses (1/2 part per trillion) and yet we dunk, spray, and feed our livestock all sorts of horrible compounds.  They have not been in use long enough for us to learn what kind of problems they will eventually cause in our population, which is even more of a reason to be alarmed.

    It is so easy to take for granted what we are giving our babies through our bodies.  Remember that breastmilk changes depending on what you eat, and our kids’ little bodies need the best possible food.   John Robbins discussion on this topic really hit home for me.

    You might think that any way toxic chemicals could possibly be eliminated from the human body would be a good thing.  But, disturbingly, the most common way these stored-up poisons are released is in the breast milk of nursing mothers.

    Note: This is NOT an anti-breastfeeding article.  Keep reading!

    A nursing woman’s body draws on its body fat reservoirs to make milk.  Stored in her body fat reservoirs are virtually all the toxic chemicals she has ever ingested, inhaled, or absorbed through her skin.

    So high is most mother’s milk in DDT, PCB’s, dieldrin, heptachlor, dioxin, and so on that it would be subject to confiscation and destruction by the FDA were it to be sold across state lines.

    The EPA found significant concentrations of DDT and PCB’s in over 99% of mother’s milk from every part of the country.  Other studies have confirmed these levels of saturation…  The President’s Council on Environmental Quality found DDT in 100% of the breast milk it sampled.

    The EPA has concluded that the average American breast fed infant ingests nine times the permissible level of dieldrin, one of the most potent of all cancer-causing agents known to modern science.  As if that weren’t enough, the EPA concludes that the average American breast fed infant also consumes ten times the FDA’s maximum allowable daily intake level of PCB’s.

    Obviously that is horrifying.  We don’t want to poison our children.

    Some women are so alarmed by these terrifying facts that they decide not to breast feed their young.  But this is usually not the best decision for a number of important reasons:

    1. Human breast milk is nutritionally vastly superior for a human infant to any… formula.
    2. The formulas are also likely to be contaminated with toxic chemicals.
    3. Human breast milk contains antibodies which are crucial for the newborn.
    4. Breast-feeding provides the bonding and emotional nurturance which are tremendously import to the well-being of both mother and baby.

    OK, so then what do we do?  How can we minimize our children’s exposure to such dangerous chemicals?

    The EPT analyzed the breast milk of vegetarian women, and discovered the levels of pesticides in their milk to be far less than average.  A study published in The New England Journal of Medicine found

    The highest levels of contamination in the breast milk of the vegetarians was lower than the lowest level of contamination… (in) non-vegetarian women…  The mean vegetarian levels were only one or two percent as high as the average levels in the United States.

    That is huge!  1 or 2%!  I think that anything that we can do to improve the quality of our breastmilk (and our personal health) is fantastic, and these statistics are another great reason to consider a vegetarian or vegan diet.  The reason that cows, chickens, and pigs have especially high amounts of these chemicals is not just because they are sprayed and fed them, but also because they eat food from fields that have been sprayed with tons of chemicals and then they store those toxins in their fat.  When we eat their fat, we get the cumulative amount of toxins from the tons of food that they have eaten.

    I was googling around, and saw that goveg has an article on the same topic, so feel free to check it out.  They use the same quotes:

    http://www.goveg.com/contamination_cautions.asp

    Eat well, mamas!

  • My birth story

    Here’s my last post in the pregnancy category for a while!

    For a week or so before my due date, I had been waking up around 2am with contractions that were too strong for me to sleep through. I would get up, do a hypnobabies script, and then they’d usually die down enough for me to sleep. My husband and I kept joking that she was going to be born at 2am.

    At 2am the night after my due date, I woke up to go to the bathroom and realized that I wasn’t having contractions. I thought, “Oh well, I guess it’ll be another day.” As I sat back down in bed, I felt a gush. Confused, I went and changed my clothes and went to the bathroom again. A bunch more liquid came out when I stood up, so I changed again. I did this 4 times before I realized that my water had broken. There was a pile of clothes in my bathroom from all of the changes. My water had never broken on its own, and I definitely hadn’t imagined that it would break before labor!

    I woke my husband up and told him that I thought my water had broken. It kept gushing, so I called my midwife who told me to put on one of the adult diapers in my birth kit – niiiiice. I had my first good contraction a few minutes after my water broke and I realized this was definitely the real thing. I started shaking from adrenaline. I called my parents on the east coast and told them to book a flight ASAP and maybe they could get here in time! My midwife told me to call back later. She said I sounded like “Yay! I’m having a baby!” and I needed to call when I felt like “Get her out!” or “I don’t want to do this!” I came downstairs, posted on GCM, and my husband and I did some final little cleanups before the baby arrived.

    For the next 2 hours I had contractions that were still very manageable. Around 4:30 they started to become more intense, so I grabbed my birth ball and my ipod and started listening to my hypnobabies birthing day script and affirmations. It felt so good to sit on the ball, listen to the scripts, and lean on my husband and the bed during the contractions. I was so excited that everything was so manageable.

    I decided to hop in the shower and see if I liked that. I didn’t. I felt really cold all of the sudden and wanted nothing to do with the shower. I told my husband to call my midwife because things were really picking up. I went back to my birth ball, and kept practicing my hypnobabies while the contractions came.

    My midwife arrived around 5:30 and by then it felt really good to make horsey lips or a low sound during the contractions. I was still using my fingerdrop and hypnobabies. My midwife checked me and I was 5cm. I stayed near my husband and wanted to lie on my side. I felt like my blood sugar was low and I felt a little dizzy. My midwife made me some eggs and brown rice and I felt a little better after eating. By 6:40 the contractions really started to pick up and for a few of them I was having trouble relaxing. I told my husband that I wasn’t keeping myself limp like I needed to, so we moved positions and I started to get concerned that the hypnosis wasn’t going to work. I had him say some affirmations. Around 7:00 my birthing tub was almost full, so I decided to move over there. As soon as I hit the water, my midwife said my countenance changed. I felt so calm. The contractions were really intense but in a way that I could totally handle. They were tight and had a lot of pressure, but not pain. My hypnosis was working again. My body was pushing. Amy (my midwife) checked and said I was a 7.

    The next few waves were great, but intense. My body kept pushing. I was trying not to push, but I couldn’t control it. I told Amy that I was going to poop and she put on a glove and grabbed the net. I pushed and thought “My goodness, what did I eat last night?!” I pushed a few more times and heard “The head is out!” I guess I didn’t need to poop after all. The assistant midwife arrived just then and scrambled to get things ready. I was in between waves and had no desire to push. I pushed during the next contraction and Sarah was out. I sat there in the pool amazed. After two complicated births, I had had my beautiful homebirth. It was amazing!

    We went to my bed after the placenta was delivered and my kids held her after she nursed. My 5yo son cut the cord. It was all so beautiful and peaceful. I still can’t believe it! I had never gone into labor completely on my own, had never gone drug free, had never had an uncomplicated birth, and my body did it all! I’m so proud of body!

  • I had my baby!

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    I’m so sorry for the delay, but I’ve been a little busy  ;)  I need to type up my birth story.  I had an amazing, wonderful, fabulous waterbirth at home.  My little girl is adorable.  She was 8lbs even at birth and 21″ long.  She’s a champion nurser!  She’s been gaining 2oz a day for the past 3 days.  My older two are adjusting really well.

    I have a few books that I REALLY want to write about, but I’m not sure when it’ll happen.  I also want to add some pics of a few of my FO that I knitted during my break.

    I’ll be back soon!

  • “Check with your doctor…”

    This week I have been struck by how (unknowingly) dependent I have been on the opinions of my care providers. I like to think of myself as a pretty independent woman, and yet I’ve noticed that I keep thinking that I need to check with my midwife on things I already know.

    My example for this week:

    At GCM we are blessed with a wonderful retired midwife whose opinion I trust more than any doctor. She recommends a few supplements from time to time, and I decided to pick them up after she made some personal recommendations to me. I noticed that my first instinct was to jot down a note to ask my midwife if she approved. The more I thought about it, the more odd that I realized my thinking was. I knew my midwife would leave it up to me – she’s not the type to force her opinion. She will give me her thoughts if I ask for them, but it is not that I need her permission to do something.

    I’m not sure how I got into a habit of not thinking for myself, because that is one of the last ways that I’d ever want to be described. It has happened though. Somehow I lost trust in myself and decided that I needed validation from “experts”. When I ask questions, I usually get responses that I already know, and yet I somehow have been desiring the comfort that comes from hearing my own thoughts coming at me from a more respected source. How bizarre!

    Really… there is something very wrong.

  • “My body is not a lemon.”

    As I mentioned a few entries ago, hearing the heartbeat has made me much more focused.  Today I decided to resume my reading of Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth.  I got to the part where she talks about the fact that many women have excessive bleeding when they deliver the placenta, and my whole body tensed up.  I was pretty impressed that I noticed it, but freaked out that it not only scared me but also created a physical response.  Just a few paragraphs later I saw this

    Remember this, for it is as true as true gets: Your body is not a lemon.  You are not a machine.  The Creator is not a careless mechanic.  Human female bodies have the same potential to give birth well as aardvarks, lions, rhinoceri, elephants, moose, and water buffalo.  Even if it has not been your habit throughout your life so far, I recommend that you learn to think positively about your body.

    This is the core of it.  I am afraid that my body doesn’t work as well as it is supposed to.  Things have happened, and even if many were the result of interventions and modern science, it still rattles me a bit.  I said from the beginning that my biggest challenge would be in trusting my body and relaxing during the birth.  If I can relax and trust in peace, then I know I will be fine.  I’m just not exactly sure how to get there.

    On a related note, I have recently realized how much I hold my stress in my body.  My yoga teacher commented last week that my shoulders were super tense.  I’ve been having a lot of migraines, and they always “sit” in my shoulders.  I am working so hard on relaxing my body, but its tricky.  Who knew that controlling your own body could be so challenging?

  • Ina May Gaskin speaking in Boulder on May 4

    I know that I have at least a few local readers. 🙂 If you are anywhere near the Boulder/Denver area, please consider joining the Colorado Midwives Association for an evening with Ina May Gaskin (author of Spiritual Midwifery and Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth). She will be speaking about childbirth, breastfeeding, and parenting.

    Here’s the important info:

    Cost: $15 per person or $20 per couple

    Location: The New Church of Boulder Valley
    1370 Forest Park Circle
    Lafayette, CO 80026

    Date: May 4, 2007 at 7pm

    The proceeds will help pay for legislative efforts to expand the scope of practice for Colorado midwives and continue to allow them to provide women with informed choices and individualized care. Come support Colorado midwives!

  • A heartbeat

    I had a wonderful appointment with my midwife today, and we heard my baby’s heartbeat.  The kids were so excited.  It was such a joyous moment.  On the way home my son said “I like listening to the baby, mom.”

    Me too.  I like it a lot.
    I was almost this far along when we lost our first baby.  During all 3 pregnancies since the loss, I have become very nervous before hearing the heartbeat.  For the past week or so I have felt like my general anxiety levels were much higher, although I couldn’t put my finger on it.  After hearing the heartbeat, I realized  that this fear was causing my stress.  It melted away.  Even though I know that I didn’t cause my miscarriage, it still haunts me in many ways, and I guess this is one of them.

    So I am now letting myself plan for our new baby.   I didn’t realize how much I was holding back until after I heard the heartbeat.  Now it is really hitting me.  There is so much to plan – so much to do.  I almost feel like I am starting over.  I keep remembering things I need: “Oh yeah, I need to grab the cloth diapers.  Where are my newborn clothes?  Do I still have a baby bath?  Has my Lansinoh expired? …. ”

    Last night I went to a water aerobics class for pregnant and postpartum women, and there was a lady in there who had just given birth 7 weeks ago.  She was nervous and asking to borrow a cell phone because the baby was home with her husband.  When I looked at her face, all of those “new mom” emotions flooded back to me.  I can’t believe its all about to happen again.

    Crazy.

  • GBD success stories

    I’ve posted this kind of stuff in the past.  I think it is important for those of us who are AP/GBD/gentle parenting to make sure that we talk about our successes.  There are often complaints on GCM about the fact that it seems like everyone is raising terrible kids.  This impression can come from the fact that people read the GD/GBD forum, and the only people who post in there are people that need help – not people who are already doing it and reaping the rewards.  If you’re doing it well, and know what to do, then you will rarely be posting in that kind of forum.  The GD/GBD forum can give a skewed view to the outside world, and that part is sad.  Thankfully it is also an amazing resource if you are having problems, but it is not always the place to go for encouragement.

    So anyways, for my latest happy story:

    Tonight we went out to The Outback for dinner (yum!) When we were about halfway through our meal, an older woman came over to our table and said “I wanted to come over here and commend you for the job that you are doing on raising your children.  They are them most well-behaved children I have ever seen and it is obvious that you are great parents by the way that you interact.  This is one of the hardest ages for children, and you are doing an amazing job.”  She went on for a few minutes making us blush  ;)  She had grown children at the table with her, so she’s definitely been through parenting.  Once she left, dh and I smiled to each other, and blushed a little more, because she was so sweet about it.

    The thing is – its not like today is a perfect day.  Julia (3) spiked a fever last night and is all stuffy.  She had a pretty rough day because she is sick.  It was a really nice reminder that the fruits of GBD are apparent even when your kids are sick or overtired or having a bad day or all of the above.

    I have been so blessed to have wonderful parents to model grace based discipline to me.  I was raised this way, and I know that they will never know how much they blessed me through their parenting choices.  It gives me joy to think that we have the opportunity to give our children the same blessing.

  • Homebirth? (!)

    I’m telling you what: I’m getting crazier by the year. Until a year ago when one of my dearest friends announced that she was having a home-birth-after-Cesarean (HBAC), I never would’ve even considered a homebirth. That experience really changed me though. It changed what I thought labor and delivery had to be. It made me question my thoughts that my history predicted the future. I had been stuck in a Dr. Phil “The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior” mantra, and that one experience made me question my thoughts and ideas.

    So I’ve been interviewing midwives, and I picked one today. I am really excited. I’m a little nervous, but not afraid… just excited and aware that I don’t even get yet how different my prenatal care is going to be. It has already been so much less stressful. I haven’t had to fight for the little things that made the OB flip out. I am able to share information instead of just sit there, nod my head, and be told that I am ignorant. It is really empowering.

    So I’m sure I’ll be talking about this a lot in the next 7-8 months or so. I just had to add a pregnancy category to my blog. I guess that shows how much I wasn’t really expecting to do this again. 😉 I’m excited.

    As I’m sure you could’ve guessed – I am reading a book on pregnancy and midwives now. I’m so predictable.

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